10 Signs Your Partner Is The Jealous Type
10 Signs Your Partner Is The Jealous Type
Jealousy has been called the green-eyed monster, and it can lead to dangerous behavior in those who lack enough self-control to avoid violence toward someone they see as a romantic rival. Having two or more people competing for your love might seem like an ideal scenario for those who like these types of romance stories in movies and television, but you aren’t a prize to be won. Your own well-being is at stake if your partner is the jealous type.
Jealousy may be evolving as social norms about what defines a romantic partnership change, but typically both halves of a committed couple expect that their partner will remain not only monogamous, but also emotionally attached to only them. Here are 10 signs that your partner is the jealous type.
10 Signs Your Partner Is The Jealous Type
1. Your partner tries to restrict your behavior
If your partner is setting limits on how often you can go out, whom you can see, and whom you talk to, that is not something you should tolerate. You are a person of free will who can choose where and whom you will speak with.2. Your partner wants you to be with them 24/7
Insecurity is the reason that your partner is constantly attached to you. Whether they believe you will cheat or not, your partner feels the need to check up on you and make sure you are ‘OK’ more often than they should for a healthy relationship.3. Your partner says demeaning things about others who they believe to be cheaters
This is a very subtle form of manipulation that borders on verbal abuse. First of all, demeaning language toward you should never be tolerated. Someone who is using belittling words toward others is more likely to do it to you as well. For example, your partner calls someone who they believe to be cheating a ‘slut’ and they also have suspicions that you are unfaithful, well you can fill in the blank about what they call you under their breath.4. Your partner has an unstable mood
Researchers looking at abusive relationships say that anger, jealousy and mood instability are all strongly related to how often verbal and physical abuse happens in intimate relationships. It is a sign your partner is the jealous type if their moods are unpredictable and shift from anger to sadness to anxiety frequently.5. Your partner has a limited support system outside of you
Your partner is the jealous type if they have a small social circle. Your partner is dependent on you almost entirely for their feelings of self-esteem and self-worth.6. Your partner negatively compares themselves to others
If your partner thinks they are unfavorable compared to a potential romantic rival, you might have reason for concern that your partner is the jealous type. Researchers looking at jealous and abusive relationships say people who compare themselves negatively with others will try to get their partner’s approval ‘to validate their tenuous sense of self-worth.’7. Your partner is afraid of being abandoned
If your partner fears that you will leave them and you are physically weaker than your partner, protect yourself first from the potential of physical assault by getting to a safe location and calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233. Researchers warn that ‘With the exception of serial killers, almost all cases of males killing females occur in the context of an ongoing intimate relationship, and much male intimate violence occurs in the process of real or perceived relationship dissolution. Prior research indicates that men who assault their wives have high chronic anger scores, and that their anger is frequently triggered by attachment change they perceive as uncontrollable.’8. Your partner is upset about you spending time with any potential romantic rival
In nature, jealousy is primarily based on the risks to the male and female partners who are raising offspring if there is a romantic rival. For example, if there is a baby and the male is concerned that the female may have gone outside the partnership, there is a risk that if he stays and raises the young it may turn out to not be his genetic offspring. For the female partner, if the male strays, she risks loosing his commitment to raising the young and the resources that he is able to provide for the family.
Researchers looked at men and women’s responses to an imaginary scenario where their partner had either a physical affair or an emotional affair. Heart rate increases, perspiration, and eyebrow movements were studied when the participants imagined their partner’s infidelity. Men were more likely to be upset about their partner’s sexual infidelity but women were more upset about a partner’s emotional infidelity.
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